Letting the Wisest Part Drive

You know that experience of talking to someone who doesn’t get what you’re saying—maybe even can’t get it—but you both keep going anyway (because both egos want a “win”)?

Everyone knows you can’t talk someone into anything once they’ve switched to a different radio station.

We’ve all been there.
You feel one way; they feel another.
You talk, they talk.

The more you talk, the more they (or you) double down.

Do either of you ever change your minds?

No.

You both dig deeper trenches.

This is basically the internal dynamic happening inside every human a good portion of the time.

There’s the Real You—the higher self—the higher mind, intuition, the one that knows, has clarity, feels desire for a certain direction, and senses the next step.

And then there are the protector parts or “ego” self who goes, “Okay, but let me run this idea through every shred of logic, doubt, outdated belief, inherited fear, resentment, and multi-generational software code anyone on the planet has ever carried.”

But—and here’s the important part—the Real You (your inner compass, the quiet you under all the static) never joins you in negative spiraling.

That wiser part of you is always trending toward flow, expansion, wholeness, joy, ease, and alignment.

It doesn’t buy into your self-doubt or fear.

It simply waits—patiently—for you to remember who you really are.

And when you start following that voice, the internal conflict quiets. Life gets lighter.

The Whisper That Matters: A Lot

When you’re in your flow, impulses start showing up naturally—not necessarily as massive fireworks or cosmic downloads, but most likely tiny nudges:

I think I’ll send that email.
Maybe I should reach out to that person now.
I’m going to take a different route home today.
I think I’ll pick up that book again.

At first these impulses feel random, faint, almost meaningless.

But then—something happens.
A chance meeting.
A conversation.
An unexpected opening.
A new idea that connects the dots.

And you realize, oh . . . okay. This is why I felt nudged to do that.

This is how we become conscious participants in our own unfolding—to trust the clues our higher selves are always trying to give us. To not over-ride them with logic.

Eventually, with practice, the impulses get louder, clearer, and more obvious. Sometimes (maybe often) they come with a sense of purpose or direction you can’t explain.

And this is what true satisfaction actually is. It’s not spiritual fireworks, manifestation trophies, or achievements. It’s the quiet, grounded feeling of being in partnership with the Real You—with that inner pull.

As Jed McKenna put it, “If you take your hand off the tiller, the boat will steer itself and do a vastly better job of it than you ever could.”

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