It’s Not Luck—It’s Alignment

The Myth of “You’re So Lucky”

People have been calling me “lucky” my whole life.

In my twenties, I decided to I pour every spare dollar and vacation day into my excitement—travel—instead of the “shoulds” I was supposed to be chasing. Instead of saying, “I’m going to find a way to do that too,” people said, “You’re so lucky.”

In my thirties, I reinvented my life, switched careers, shed relationships that no longer fit, and eventually made partner at my coaching firm—a transition that was, in many parts, excruciatingly disorienting and painful. Still, people said, “You’re lucky—I don’t have that kind of freedom.”

When I met my soulmate and we took off to vagabond the world for six years in my forties, came my personal favorite: “Must be nice!”

Now, a few years into my fifties . . . well, let’s see what stories this decade brings!

What most people don’t want to admit (and neither do I in my own seasons of resistance) is this:

It’s not luck.

It’s alignment.

Life doesn’t play favorites—it mirrors our frequency. Trust me, I’ve tried to deny, dodge, and outsmart that truth. But I’ve learned: life can’t be fooled. It always reflects what’s happening on the inside, reorganizing itself to match who we believe ourselves to be in every moment.

The Real Work Behind the Magic

Alignment takes work: inner and outer. And sometimes it ain’t pretty.

What so many of us miss in this personal evolution game is that action is what brings the inner work to the surface.

When you move toward a new vision—something that excites, stretches, maybe even terrifies you—every limiting belief that stands in the way shows up to be seen and cleared. Doubt. Fear. Imposter stories. The old survival wiring that warns, “You’re going to lose everything and die lonely under a bridge!” (Anne Lamott calls her mean internal chatterbox Radio K-F**ked.)

That voice is not guidance—it’s the echo of old programming pretending to keep you safe. Your inner software asking to be updated.

Three Components of Alignment

To create from alignment, you need:

A | Align your vision: A compelling vision that feels true to your core and pulls you forward.

R | Release resistance: Awareness to notice the limiting beliefs and old resistant stories that are keeping you stuck. The moment you become aware of a narrative, it starts to dissolve—awareness is the clearing.

C | Create in motion: Take the next aligned step before you feel ready; hold the vision and let go of the how.

Because clarity (and brain rewiring) doesn’t come before the leap. It’s forged through it. (Learn more about my ARC Blueprint.)

The Takeaway

So yes, by all means, take action. But don’t do it just to get something you think will bring you greater satisfaction. Do it to allow more of who you truly are to express itself, which, as I see it, is the whole point of life.

That’s when the so-called “luck” begins to find you.

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