It’s Not Luck—It’s Alignment

People have been calling me “lucky” my whole life.

In my twenties, I chose to pour every spare dollar and vacation day I had into my excitement—travel—instead of the “shoulds” I was supposed to be chasing. The typical response I got wasn’t, “Great idea! I’m going to find a way to do that too.” It was usually something like: “You’re so lucky.”

In my thirties, I reinvented my life, switched careers, shed relationships that no longer fit, and eventually made partner at my coaching firm—a long transition that was, in many parts, excruciatingly disorienting and painful. Still, people said, “You’re lucky—I don’t have that kind of freedom.”

When I met my soulmate and we sold everything to vagabond the world for six years in my forties—also a transition that required a ton of self-trust and pushing through resistance—came: “Must be nice!”

Now, a few years into my fifties . . . well, let’s see what stories this decade brings.

What most people don’t want to admit (and neither do I in my own seasons of resistance) is this: It’s not luck. It’s alignment.

Life doesn’t play favorites—it mirrors our frequency. I’ve tried to deny, dodge, and outsmart this law. But life can’t be fooled. It always reflects what’s happening on the inside, reorganizing itself to match who we believe ourselves to be in every moment.

The Real Work Behind the Magic

Alignment takes work: inner and outer. And sometimes it ain’t pretty.

What we often miss in the personal evolution game is that action is what brings the inner work to the surface.

When you move toward a new vision—something that excites, stretches, maybe even terrifies you—every limiting belief that stands in the way shows up to be seen and cleared. Doubt. Fear. Imposter stories. The old survival wiring that warns, “You’re going to lose everything and die lonely under a bridge!” (Anne Lamott calls her mean internal chatterbox Radio K-F**ked.)

That voice is not guidance—it’s the echo of old programming pretending to keep you safe. Your inner software asking to be updated.

Three Components of Alignment

To create from alignment, you need:

A | Alignment with your vision: A compelling vision or nudge that feels true to your core and pulls you forward.

R | Release resistance: Enough awareness to notice the limiting beliefs and old stories keeping you stuck. The moment you become aware of a narrative, it starts to dissolve—awareness is the clearing.

C | Create in motion: Take the next aligned step before you feel ready.

Because clarity (and brain rewiring) don’t come before the leap. They are forged through it.

The Takeaway

So yes, by all means, take action. But don’t do it just to get something you think will bring you greater satisfaction. Do it to allow more of who you truly are to express itself, which, as I see it, is the whole point.

That’s when the so-called “luck” begins to find you.

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